I do a lot of walking every morning. I walk along the shores of Lake Michigan and look for beach glass and hag stones. If you don’t know what those are, they are rocks that have natural holes that have worn through them at their weakest spot. They are thought to have healing and protective powers. If this is true, I can cancel all my insurance policies and rely on these rocks to protect me. (see photo above)
While I do this walking meditation and let the sound of the waves calm me and ground me, I often think about the mistakes that I make as a dating person. Not as a professional dating coach, but as a woman in her 60’s looking to find a partner/companion.
What I see time and time again are people who are having one-sided conversations.
What does this look like? Well, imagine talking to a wall. How much response are you going to get? How do you feel after having these one-sided conversations? Personally, I feel unimportant and that the person is disinterested. I also realize that many men are uncomfortable asking questions because they don’t want to pry. But hey, how else do you get to know someone?
I’d like to offer some dating tips for those who are in the dating pool, who are doing online dating, and who are meeting in real life.
#1 Have a conversation. Now, I know this sounds really easy and really common. Well, I found that common sense isn’t all that common anymore. Ask a question when you have been asked a question. Make it a conversation.
#2 Think of things that will make a woman’s heart fall in love with you. If you are a woman, ask a man what his interests are and how he likes to be acknowledged, loved, and feel part of the equation. The biggest complaint that I have from men is that women are so strong nowadays that they don’t find a place in the relationship for them. Men need to feel needed and to be validated.
#3 Trust your gut instinct. If the weight of the conversation is making you call your chiropractor because you’re carrying everything on your back, walk away. Don’t even go on a first date. It’s far better to clean out that closet, contact paper on those kitchen shelves, or pull weeds from your garden than spend the time, energy, and emotional frustration on something that you feel from the get-go is not going to work.
I am a dating coach and a Professional Profile writer for dating apps. If I can be of service please contact me. My phone number is 414 917. 5715