As a dating coach and matchmaker, it’s fascinating to me to find out what the opposite sex is seeking. It helps me coach women to hear and understand what men truly want and what is important to them.
Overall, the good news is, is that the majority of men crave and need deep intimacy. Intimacy can look very different to individuals; ranging from daily sex to cuddling and even including a very deep, emotional discussion about thoughts, feelings and needs. Bottom line, though, most dudes want that primal kind of experience, even well into their 70’s. (Also, let’s remember that the highest growing rate of VD is in senior residences!)
Men want fun. When we first start to date, it should be a playful back and forth of witty banter, flirtation, laughing, a lightness, a feeling of elation. (Yes, best case scenario) Neither sex wants to hear gloom and doom, drama, issues or challenges for a variety of reasons. (There is already enough going on with the pandemic, the economy and being quarantined) So, when you go on a date, look for comic relief; levity.
Deliver what you are seeking. Yes. You want someone relatively baggage free who has worked out his or her issues? Be that person yourself. Are you needy, clingy, lack self-confidence, and hang on every word the other person says-and do you feel like you will always say YES so someone likes you? Please don’t be that person. Its unattractive and your energy will be so unattractive that people will be running away. When you meet someone where they ARE (I don’t mean location) you have a much better chance of success, and the relationship will grow and flourish.
If you would like to chat with me personally about dating, and how I can help improve your outlook, please contact me at 414 914 5715. Thank you.