As a matchmaker, I often come across potential clients who are divorced, widowed or never been married. Was your initial reaction to never been married a red flag?
Let’s not discount someone who hasn’t been married that fast. There are many upsides to dating someone who hasn’t been married, or have kids and here are some of the examples:
- They have a schedule where they may be more accessible and not needing to prioritize the needs of their immediate family members.
- They do not have the drama of crazy exes who may be stalking them. Seriously.
- They may have been in long term relationships but don’t have the financial baggage of supporting a former mate.
- By and large, they can travel more easily (unless a job has priority) because they don’t have to make decisions for their family members.
Meeting people who have never been married are not anomalies. I’ve actually run into a number of them. Asking about their decisions as to why they never married is great food for fodder. I usually inquire as to why, and what types of relationships they’ve had in the past. Many have been in long term relationships and didn’t seen the need or desire to marry-especially if they didn’t want to have children. As times change, and people realize that the divorce rate is at 52% of married couples, it makes sense to not say “I do” unless both parties are willing to truly incorporate “till death do us part.”
So, next time you make a quick decision about someone who is an out of the box thinker-think about digging deeper into finding their “Why.” They may be your last and final love.