I was recently in a Clubhouse room where I was a moderator. There were three women on the panel and one man. The subject of the room was “Is He Just Not That Into You?”
Many of the experts, myself included, said that we can always tell if a man is into you by his interest level on how much he “leans in.”
The gentleman in the group told us that he asked a woman he was dating if he could “court” her. The other moderators in the room all opened up their microphones and I was the first one to say “swoon”…..
Isn’t this what we all want as women? To be so desired, to be admired by a man who is clearly interested in us, and who is willing to put in the work? Don’t we all deserve to be “courted?” And, what does that look like? Not everyone sees it the same way, but I can tell you in my experience what it looks like. It’s when a man who I am interested in calls me, texts me, shows up, and shows that he cares genuinely about me. I’m not a girl who needs fancy gifts or needs to be wined and dined. All I seek is interest and consistent interest. Consistency is key and needs to last forever. (It’s really easy in the beginning to do this, but long hauls are imperative.)
In today’s dating world, it’s very easy for us to get swayed and sidetracked by shiny new bulbs as new beautiful faces show up in our dating app feeds. Is the next one going to be better than the present one? How do we know unless we explore that? How do we know at this point, what really is best for us when there are so many choices? All this navigating, it makes one dizzy, doesn’t it?
I can tell you this, my friends. If a man wants to put the time and effort into the “Swoon” then let him. And don’t let him go until you determine that there is, in fact, someone so much better than the swooner. Swooners are hard to come by and our prized creatures on this Earth. They are the guys who were taught by their fathers to open up doors, pull out chairs, and pick up tabs when dining out with a woman. They appreciate a woman in her divine feminine, for her compassion, and in her kindness.
I hope everyone reading this will find someone who Swoons them and if you are a man reading this, learn how to Swoon yourself!