I’m feeling as spicy as Siracha sauce at a salsa dance today, because I am here to talk about sex over 60, one of the most exciting prospects of being…fully fledged.
Now, before you turn up your hearing aid, or adjust your bifocals, please be assured. While we are going to talk about the saucy, sizzling and oh-,so-satisfying world of senior sex, there is nothing to feel intimidated about. This will be fun..so if anything, you should fasten your safety belts.
The first bit of advice about sex for mature adults, is that you should toss out the notion that you are old. You aren’t old. You are aged to perfection, like a top-shelf whiskey. There is no room for stereotypes in this discussion.
The second point is that AARP discounts do not automatically lead to a fizzled love life! You are vibrant and alive, and if you want to put sex on your dating menu, then by all means. Now is the time.
Now that agism is out of the way, I must interject that if you have neglected to touch your toes since the Nixon administration, you should probably think about getting into a healthy physical shape before investing in that slinky negligee for yourself or your partner. While your body may feel like familiar territory, over time, the landscape may have changed in surprising ways. Exploration is the answer…and if you need to put on your reading glasses, then so be it.
Let’s talk about timing. Gone are the times of “nooners” or of sneaking quickies while the kids are snoozing. These days, it’s more about coordinating around your favorite TV shows or waiting until your arthritis meds kick in. Timing is everything, and if things don’t work out exactly as you’d imagined, a sense of humor in the boudoir can be just as important as any other technique.
It is very important to talk to your partner about intimate desires and expectations. Honesty and clear communication about what you like and don’t care for are the keys to happiness when regenerating a long-dormant physical love life. And while we’re talking to people, a pre-sex visit to your physician just to clear the flight for take off might be in order as well.
Sex over the age of 60 is a time for enjoying intimacy and life in general. It is a time for love and laughter, both in and outside of the bedroom. Toss on that Barry White album. Light some candles and embrace the joys inherent in a vibrant sex life.
Oh, and stay spicy, my friends! Ask Lori to help write your dating profile. The Maine and New Hampshire seacoasts have some excellent candidates who possess everything it takes for a steamy love life.