I’ve started back on the dating sites again, much to my chagrin.
I had met someone very special in October, and it was revolutionary for me. He had many of the things that I was looking for, but sadly, it came to an end, and I am still mourning its death. I thought at my age I would know better, and being a dating coach, was infallible. I thought perhaps I could bypass the pain, but no such luck. I feel fragmented.
Time to reflect, redirect and thank the universe for the multitude of gifts this man brought me, and I’m not just talking flowers and “things.” I am grateful beyond words for what we did for each other, and in particular, what he did for me.
Something about this man in discussion was he was literally the first man I started chatting with. I saw his picture and KNEW. When we first chatted, I KNEW. When we met, I KNEW. I simply just knew he was THE ONE. (cue Bruce Springsteen “She’s the One”…)
But now, I don’t know. I seem to be attracting some “questionable” prospects. Well, not even prospects. From ultra-right-wing conservatives to New Age gurus-I’m attracting the gamut. And I wonder, in all this, what am I needing to see-as my energy is being mirrored? Should I be more spiritual. More conservative or simply, crazier?
The answer, of course is to be who I am. Always. And meet someone where they are, and vice versa.
So, what does a girl do? She walks the barn, but doesn’t get on the horse, quite yet. I put on my big girl pants and started “chatting” which have ensued the interest to go to the next level.
I’ve had a couple of phone conversations with men who have given me so much content for blogs, that I should kiss their Converse sneakers. The best, in just a few days at this, is my friend in St. Louis. He’s the same religion as I am. He’s smart, like I am, He owns a business, like I do. He’s funny, like I am. He’s seemingly financially stable, evolved and open to see what the world brings. A good start. I agreed to chat via phone with him, and the first line threw me for a six.
Him-“Are you ready to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior to repent for your sins?”
What does someone say to that? I was gob smacked! What happened to-Let’s talk about your most favorite”-you name it, let’s talk about it. Instead it was first words insinuating……CHANGE TO WHAT I WANT YOU TO BECOME.
Those of you reading this…I can say many things here. But one thing I can say is, I am perfectly happy being Jewish. And I hope, whatever religion you are, you are, too. And accept and love people for who they are, and not what you want them to be. If you wanted yourself, you can simply spend a day starring in the mirror.
I’m a dating coach. I am walking this path with every single person, too. If you would like to contact me, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or call 414 914 5715. Let’s chat, and laugh. It’s good therapy.