is Realtor.com equal to Match.com-only for single people?
Have you ever found yourself trolling through homes; imagining yourself in them-the parties you’d have, the life you’d build there with someone, and how blissful it could be?
Isn’t this the same as a dating site? We let our imaginations run wild. We dream about the life with that crazy good looking bachelor or bachelorette; safe and secure, exploring the world together- a united force?
Aren’t these sites almost the same – both advertising and marketing “a dream?”
On online dating apps and Zillow, I’ve found two similarities. Most of the time, the photos are photoshopped, (just like dating sites) the place is well lit, (we do this when we have professional shots taken) and the house never looks as good in person as the photos. (Yes, people use old photos and never look like how they presented themselves online.)
Does this sound familiar when meeting that dreamboat in person? Yes. This is where the terms catfishing come into play-a bait and switch situation. Hook the person in to take a look and the reality never meets the fantasy.
It’s happened to me, my clients and sadly, will continue to happen. However, there are ways to make sure that whomever you are chatting with is the “real deal.”
Solutions to avoid the disappointment of being blindsided in real life:
- Start with a few texts and if you feel there is chemistry, then move to a call.
- If the call goes well, Do Facetime or Zoom. It’s perfectly okay to make sure you jive and far less painful to meet virtually than driving an hour or more to meet someone.
- Make sure you align in core values before proceeding. As much fun as dating is, there’s an endgame for us-and that is what we call a “connection”
- Be open to meet if you feel it may work. making snap judgements do t serve anyone and one can literally talk themselves out of a potentially great match.
- Be yourself and have fun!
I’m Lori Mendelsohn. I write killer dating app profiles, do coaching for humans over 50 who are getting into the dating arena and do hand curated matchmaking. You can reach me at 414 914 5715 or at firstname.lastname@example.org