As Forest Gump would say, “Dating apps are like a box of chocolates…Ya never know what you’re gonna get…” or maybe that’s not exactly what he said, but still. Surprises can happen regardless of the circumstances and are sometimes unpleasant. However, there are certain things you can do to stay nice and safe on the dating scene.
By definition, dating apps are limited in what they can do. Suppose you are fortunate enough to live on the Maine Seacoast or New Hampshire Seacoast. In that case, you have access to matchmaker, Lori Mendelsohn, who can make the whole process a lot easier. In her endeavors as a matchmaker, Lori will ensure that you are set to go in terms of the best match for you.
Meanwhile, here are a few points that can help daters stay safer in this uncertain world:
Setting up your first couple of in-person meetings in a public place is best. Go for a nice walk together in the park. Order a cuppa Joe over a game of Scrabble at a local coffee shop, or chat one another up at a local restaurant. At first, it’s best to stick to a low-risk, highly populated environment until you feel at ease and ready for some privacy together.
Before you go out with someone you don’t know…or someone you do know, for that matter, please let someone know. Tell a friend. Text your location to a relative. Just send a little note without going into a lot of detail. If you disappear, those who love you will want to know where to send the search hounds.
This is one of the most essential pieces of advice you can follow (Are you ready for it?) :
Don’t get drunk!
Go ahead. Call me an old fudddy-duddy, but I will repeat myself. Do not consume too much alcohol when you’re on a date with someone you’ve just met. Abstaining from over-consumption during this time will help you stay alert and to make the right judgment calls that will help you stay safe.
Finally, listen to your gut. If you feel uncomfortable at any point, it’s probably because something isn’t quite right. Your safety and the level to which you feel comfortable should remain at the top of your priority list at all times. Follow your instincts and end the date if things don’t feel right. It’s ok. You won’t be a bad person for doing that.
Take care of yourself.
You’re worth it.
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